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Stop and breathe….: Finding Our "People"


SXSW Hoe?  --Blooming Prejippie Zine

Stop and breathe….

I know I am not supposed to publish anything that doesn’t “add value” to our blog if we want to “get ahead.” And I know for many of you, I am supposed to an “expert” and not vulnerable to the slings and arrows of negative comments. (As an “expert, I am supposed to realize that they were bound to happen and just suck it up and keep the confidence train amoving.) Or I know for many of you who may not have nearly 17k followers or a podcast with nearly 7k downloads, you’re thinking to yourself, “What the fuck is she complaining about?!” and that for you, these are first-world problems, but since this is our first time going this way, we feel the way we feel… All I could think of is that I can either be quiet about it or I can share it with you, because somewhere along the line that sharing—instead of concealing—might actually help someone else….

As you know, we made it to the second round of approved proposals for South By Southwest 2020. —Yay, right? —Now, we are at the stage where we must get YOU, the public, to vote for us, so that we can it to the final round. Now, you MAY know that I have recently improved my community-building skills—through running 2 Facebook groups (Be the Next D.I.Y. Rock Star and Funky Happy People) and by being more outgoing when we are at in real world events (see photo below).

Chuck Surack, Sweetwater Sound --Blooming Prejippie

"Interacting" with Chuck Surack, Founder, at IRL Sweetwater Sound's GearFest 2019

It’s the loner in me….

The bottom line is that, I am really an introvert, who values my quiet time and who guards my confidence by not fawning over “important” people; that’s just NOT my jam. However, when we decided to go all-in nearly 3 years ago now—see Ye Chen article if you missed that part of our story—I decided, specifically, that I would work on my willingness to approach people to make meaningful connections, so that we could build the community we need to push us to our next level. —Psst! We’d done it before, in the 90s, when we ran a poetry zine. The difference was that it was a lot more casual and took much more trial and error to make it work. —This time, I vowed to cut through some of that on-again and off-again work by just owning what needed to be done. However, I was firm about maintaining my standards of ONLY putting myself out there for QUALITY connections of people who we truly admire and/or people who vibe naturally with what we’re doing. —Hint: if you’re reading this, it means you can count yours